I contacted my state representative and
told her about Mary's plight. She listened to everything I had to say
and seemed very concerned. She told me she would mention my concerns to
her colleagues at the State Capital and then get back to me. I called
her a week later and she told me she had talked to her colleagues and
their advice for me was to get a lawyer, or file a report with a
state agency. This was frustrating because, not only did I think
calling her was reporting to a state agency, but also because
I thought she would do something herself, especially since it seemed like
what Mary was going through constituted abuse, and I thought state
representatives were mandated reporters.
I then called the Minnesota Department
of Human Services and told them Mary's story. I told them how many
times she had been moved, how many times she had been abused, how she
wasn't improving, how her workers had lied about her case, and how
they had pretty much neglected caring for her in general. They told
me they were concerned as well and said would look into it.
I never heard back from them, at least
not directly. But then a few days after I made my report, Mary's social
worker started one of our meetings with a special announcement:
"We received a call from the
State that apparently someone has filed a complaint regarding Mary's
case."
She paused and looked around the room
but not at me. I remember this well because I was sitting
next to her.
She continued, "Of course we
have no idea who that was, now… do we?"
She was talking about me but not to me
so she had to talk around me and make it look like she was on
to me — all the time sounding like a fool. At first I thought she
was making a joke, but then I looked up and saw that she was deadly
serious and everyone else in the room was scared and sitting
perfectly still, or staring down at the table — not at her, and not
at me — like they were afraid of something.
We had many meetings like this where
the tension was, well, thick. I used to joke to a friend before our
meetings that I wondered what topic we wouldn't talk about at
today's meeting. There was always some topic — usually something
big — that we wouldn't talk about at every meeting. And to me, this
was usually what the meeting was about. I'm pretty sure everyone else
knew what topics we weren't discussing as well. Almost all our
meetings were tense like this, especially if I would talk about the
elephant in the room. Sometimes when I did this I would get yelled at
— literally. People remember these meetings well. I would say
something like,
"You know we still haven't
talked about Mary's continual moving and…"
And before I could finish, Mary's
corrections officer would stand up, and at the top of her lungs start
screaming directly at me from across the table,
"Shut up John! We aren't going
to talk about that today!"
I'd look at her like she had lost her
mind and almost laugh because I couldn't believe she had actually
yelled at me. But it wasn't funny. It was pathetic. And sad. And
apparently scary for everyone else in the room. The rest of the team
would have their heads down by then, and it seemed as if they would lower
them even more if I said something back to her, or, of course, if I
laughed. They wouldn't move or blink, and they looked like they were
waiting for her to hurl a stapler at me. I was kind-of waiting for it
too.
So far my calls for outside help
weren't getting me very far. No one was doing anything, and it wasn't
clear if my reporting was getting through or not. But I knew one
thing — I knew how to tell what the topic of a meeting was.
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